What Godly Love Really Looks Like (Beyond the Butterflies)
Traits of Spiritually Grounded Love vs. Emotional Infatuation
Butterflies can fool you. Chemistry can blind you. Attention can excite you. But none of these things as beautiful as they feel guarantee real love.
The world has taught us to chase the spark, the thrill, the romance that sweeps us off our feet. Yet God invites us to something deeper… a love that doesn’t just touch your emotions but transforms your entire heart.
Godly love isn’t built on adrenaline.
It’s built on agreement, alignment, and spiritual maturity.
Infatuation makes your heart race.
Godly love makes your heart rest.
When the Butterflies Fade What Remains?
Butterflies aren’t bad they’re beautiful. But they are not the foundation of real love.
Infatuation is emotional.
Godly love is intentional.
Infatuation is based on excitement.
Godly love is based on character.
Infatuation wants instant connection.
Godly love is willing to grow slowly and intentionally.
Infatuation rises fast and falls even faster.
Godly love deepens over time and becomes stronger through challenges.
Emotional feelings come and go, but the love God sends remains steady, consistent, and purposeful.
The Traits of Spiritually Grounded Love
Here’s what real, God-centered love actually looks like the kind that builds marriages, families, and lifelong partnership:
1. Godly Love Brings Peace, Not Confusion
If you’re constantly anxious, guessing, or feeling insecure, that’s not God’s design.
God’s love brings clarity. It brings calm. It brings confirmation.
“For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace.” 1 Corinthians 14:33
Where peace is missing, God is signaling that something is off.
2. Godly Love Is Consistent
Infatuation is hot today, cold tomorrow.
Spiritually grounded love shows up, even on the mundane days.
A godly partner doesn’t disappear when things get difficult.
They are steady, reliable, and rooted not running at the first sign of discomfort.
3. Godly Love Protects Your Spirit
A godly partner will never pull you away from God.
They will push you toward Him with encouragement, prayer, and integrity.
They protect your:
• peace
• purity
• emotional well-being
• destiny
They don’t play with your heart. They guard it.
4. Godly Love Is Selfless, Not Self-Serving
Infatuation says: “How do you make me feel?”
True love asks: “How can I serve you with Christlike love?”
Godly love shows up in actions patience, kindness, sacrifice, and humility.
“Love… does not seek its own.” 1 Corinthians 13:5
5. Godly Love Has Purpose, Not Just Passion
Infatuation is driven by chemistry.
Godly love is driven by calling.
A godly partner understands that relationships are not just emotional they are spiritual assignments.
They dream with you.
Build with you.
Pray with you.
Grow with you.
Your relationship becomes a ministry, not a distraction.
How to Recognize When It’s Just Infatuation
Infatuation is temporary. It fades when flaws appear. It collapses under pressure.
Signs it’s infatuation:
• You love the way they make you feel, but not who they truly are.
• You ignore red flags because the chemistry is strong.
• The connection is intense but unstable.
• You crave their attention more than their character.
Infatuation burns fast and burns out fast.
Godly Love Feels Different… And That’s the Beauty of it
Godly love feels safe.
Comforting.
Steady.
Aligned.
Honest.
Sacred.
It might not always give butterflies but it gives something more powerful:
Security.
Godly love doesn’t take away your peace it adds to it.
It doesn’t rush it builds.
It doesn’t tear you down it lifts you higher.
And above all, godly love reflects God’s heart.
Final Reflection
Awakened woman, you were not created for chaotic love.
You were created for God-aligned love the kind that grows your soul, strengthens your purpose, and mirrors Christ.
Stop praying for someone who gives butterflies.
Start praying for someone who gives fruit patience, peace, kindness, self-control, loyalty, and faithfulness.
Because butterflies fade.
But godly love endures.
“Love never fails.” 1 Corinthians 13:8
